My Brother's Adoption Profile...
Dear Friend,
Is your head spinning yet from all the profiles there are to go through? It must be a crazy experience, trying to find the right fit for you and your baby. We empathize with you, and hope that no matter what decisions you make, you'll find comfort and even some joy along the way.
We met as missionaries for the LDS Church in Oklahoma, and although we became good friends and respected each other there, sparks did not fly until long after both of us returned home from our service. And oh boy, did sparks fly! From our first date on, we knew we had something special. We've certainly seen our share of struggles in our almost ten years together, but our love has only grown as we've turned to each other and the Lord for strength and guidance.
In 2004, we adopted our son, Tyler. Before he was even born, we came to love his birth family and have maintained a great relationship with them throughout the years. Because of them and Brad's work as an adoption caseworker, we feel a great love and respect for birth parents and their families. You can be confident that if you choose us to parent your child, you will always be spoken of with great affinity and appreciation. We will make sure that your child knows of your deep love and incredible sacrifice. We would love to continue a relationship with you and are open to lots of different ways of communication.
We have a lot of fun together. Water fights, loud singing, dancing, and ticklefests are common occurrences in our home. We love, love, love to travel, and feel strongly that it's a great way to teach children about life outside our hometown. One of the reasons we moved to Texas was to be adventurous, and to have Ty grow up experiencing diversity. At least a couple times a year, we return to our family's cabin on the Oregon Coast, where we romp on the beach, sled down sand dunes, and hold crossword puzzle contests with our extended family. We also like to think we're pretty athletic, so you can imagine our shock and dismay when our 14 year-old nephew and 70 year-old dad schooled us on the basketball court this summer! Sally coaches a girls basketball team in the winter, and although Brad's true loves are football and soccer, most of his exercise comes from riding bikes and playing basketball or baseball, as those are Ty's favorites. We also love swimming, and can often be found in the pool splashing our way through the Texas heat.
About Brad:
I (Sally) don't know exactly how to describe Brad, except by saying that he's a spaz and a spiritual giant all rolled into one. As a boy he was all over the place, breaking 27 different bones before graduating from high school! He's a naturally happy person, and is good at making people laugh (well, except when he's tired. That's when he thinks he's hilarious and the rest of us are left saying, Huh? But even that’s pretty funny). He has tons of energy and is very spontaneous–I think he would be willing to try just about anything.
Brad is the kindest person I know. His heart is pure gold. He lives by the motto, "I just try to help out where I can," and is often the one found comforting a hurt child, cleaning up after a party, or helping a family move in on a Saturday morning. His non-judgmental attitude and genuine empathy serve him well as a therapist, where he has the natural ability of putting people at ease.
It has been so fun watching Brad become a dad. I cannot imagine any dad being more attentive, playful, and kind than Brad is with Ty. It's seriously a party every day when Brad comes home from work. Ty idolizes him, and I'm so glad he has Brad as an example of what a man should be. Brad has always been an equal partner in parenting–he changes diapers and cleans up messes with the best of 'em.
About Sally:
I (Brad) find it easy to describe Sally: AMAZING! She is my sweet companion, and the perfect complement to me. She is the one who always makes me laugh. Her cheery disposition and natural optimism always seem to lift me up when I am having a rough day. I like that she doesn't let me take myself too seriously. One of the things I love about her most is her strength. There seems to be nothing that can get her down for long.
One of Sally's favorite movies is "The Sound of Music." In many ways, she is like the main character, Maria (whom she played in a school production once): able to face challenges head on, continuing to sing all the while. Whether she is playing the piano or singing, I love the fact that she fills our home with music. She is also a gifted educator. She touched many students’ lives as a Junior High teacher before becoming the full time CEO of our home. I love to see her teaching Ty new things. She has him believing that he is a great piano player, and that he can be as good as her someday.
Sally is the most prepared and insightful mother I have ever seen. She is a voracious reader, and always seems to be in the middle of a book(or two or three). She loves to read novels, as well as educational books that help her in her roles as wife and mother. She always knows how to handle every situation with grace and wisdom. She has such a warm, genuine, and loving heart. I am so grateful that she’s mine forever.
About Tyler:
Ty is a very sweet and social boy. He chats up almost everyone he sees. He loves telling store associates about how he turns himself into a transformer or Spiderman, and he actually likes going to the doctor so he can show how big he's getting. He loves riding around the block on his big-boy bike. He is also a sensitive friend, often giving hugs and kisses to his playmates when they get hurt or sad. He can't wait to be a big brother and we have no doubt he'll dote on and fiercely protect his new sibling.
Big Finish:
Adoption is a very important part of our family. We have close family members that are adopted and others that are in the process of adopting. We think our family is kind of neat in that respect: all of us feel accepted and loved unconditionally. We have come to realize that family isn’t necessarily created through blood, it’s created through the heart.
Thanks for taking the time to get to know us a little. Feel free to check out our blog at www.sallycay.blogspot.com to see what our everyday life is like. We’re not perfect, but we love each other, adoption, and birth families. We sincerely wish you the very best as you consider what is best for you and your baby.
Love,
Brad and Sally
Ok, so if you know any one they are great! He is the best Big Brother ever. And I adore Sally and couldn't ask for a better sister in Law.